Sunday, April 26, 2009

Happily Ever After

Hoosier Girl of The Coffee Table is this week's Fun Monday host. Hoosier Girl is contemplating marriage so she is asking, "What do you consider important to a good marriage or relationship?"

Even though I have been inconsistent with my blog and my Fun Monday participation, there are two reasons that I have signed up for this exercise. First, the lovely hostess is also from Indiana, and second, I have been married for a number of years, for 42 since the day after Christmas. Now, my longevity of marital bliss may not make me an expert at the topic, but I do have some reflections.

December 26, 1966

The first and foremost secret to a good realtionship is selecting a good partner. Perhaps, this is easier said than accomplished, but fortunately I did marry a kind, intelligent, handsome, and even-tempered man, Daddy D. Although we married at a relatively young age, we grew up together before our children were born. Additionally, I think that our willingness to forgive has helped this personal growth. Finally, although we have some separate interests, we do try to spend time with each other.

December 26, 2006 at the 40th wedding anniversary party that we threw for ourselves.


Maybe another pathway to a healthy relationship is the ability to have good time.

20 comments:

karisma said...

Oh dear! Good? At the moment SB is Grumpy! (Both verbs! Oh well, details!) Mind you he can't help it, he is in pain, poor dear! LOL! I am so happy to see someone who has one over me! 42 years is fantastic, I hope we manage that too. Well we are halfway there! LOL!

I love your wedding picture, you both look so happy and dancing? Well, what can I say, I have always loved to dance, SB was always shy, but about 18 years into the marriage I finally got him up on the floor! He caved, just for me! Now thats love I think! And what fun it is! Yay!

Oh and for the record, he is a really good dancer! Don't know why he would not dance before! Silly boy!

PS. You guys are still as gorgeous as you were on your wedding day! Congratulations! Hugs xxxxxooooxxx

karisma said...

Oh hang on! Not verbs, Swampy might smack me! They could be pro-verbs though, you know "good-dancer, grumpy dancer." Schools out today, its been a very very long weekend! No sleep!

margaret (the misanthrope) said...

Wow, congratulations on your 42 years! Beautiful story, thank you. I'm enjoying visiting around and seeing each person's take on this most uniquely personal of topics.

Cazzie!!! said...

You cannot go wrong with having a good time :)

Sayre said...

One slight amendment to your statement: "... the ability to have a good time TOGETHER."

Which it appears you certainly do!

Lil Mouse said...

how nice!

Mariposa said...

The first and foremost secret to a good realtionship is selecting a good partner...something given but always missed out!

And yes...to having good time together! you both still look lovely and happy the day you walked down the aisle!

Janis said...

Great advice for a happy union. Congratulations of 42 years of wedded bliss. May you celebrate many more to come. Looks like you guys are having fun on both photos.

daddy d said...

I just knew the right question at the right time. Lucky me.

Margaret said...

I'm coming up on (only) 25--but my husband is kind and patient and easy-going. I'd like to be more like him. But I'm nurturing, supportive and loving. I don't remember us EVER having an argument about our kids or how to rear them. We have similar values although we are on different political pages.

gawilli said...

I love that last picture!

Bobbie Leigh said...

Congratulations on 42 years! I love the pictures- is he doing the robot? LOL!
And my husband is no longer allowed to touch the washing machine either. :o)

Hoosier Girl said...

Yay for Hoosiers! And I love the way you all just assume I'm "lovely". I could be hideous!
(just kidding)

Anyway, I love the pictures!

J.

The Church Lady said...

Well, it sure looks like you two love to have a good time together! I actually enjoy spending time with my hubby too. I think it's good practice to maintain a sense of humor in a marriage. Congratulations on 42 fun years of marital bliss!

Faye said...

Your observation about marrying young and growing up together reminded me of Gattina's point that there are stages in a relationship that must evolve--first learning to be a couple, the parenting and finally being a couple again. The last period of couplehood involves giving each other the space to pursue different interests. Whatever path you all have taken has obviously worked. Wishing you many more happy years together.

Gattina said...

I think we are in the same boat, lol !

Pamela said...

same here -- I married a great guy. He goes cycling, while I go bird watching.
But we come home & compare notes (:

Nessa said...

You are an adorable couple and you have given some good advice.

Stephanie, Mama Dramatist said...

Thank you for your words of wisdom, your excellent example, and for sharing your awesome pics!!

randu said...

i love it!! all the words and the picture!
i wish i would as pretty as you when i (eventually) get married.
i'm so scare i'll end up smirking like joker instead of smiling like a bride should do..
but i llloooovvveee it!u look so pretty!